Here is a guy who’s obviously not taken my quiz on attracting women, or he wouldn’t be asking this question. He’s basically asking if he as a black man can attract asian women. See how I respond.
Question:
I think most of you are beautiful and interesting. I know Im not a bad looking guy, so I just wonder why sometimes I cant even get a hello out one of you. What is it that asian women fear about a black guy. Do u think every black guy is a gang-banger, or are most of you just not attracted to us? And how do you think I should approach an beautiful Asian hottie?
Chicago,IL
My quick answer to this question:
I am going to give you THE answer, and it might be an answer you’re gonna like at first, but its truth and what you need. Heck, it might even be different than the answer you got in my secret quiz! This is coming from me, a guy who’s had experience with hundreds of different guys and helping them become better with attracting women.
Heck, I could share my own story (see if this sounds familiar)… Before I understood the secrets of attraction, a long time ago… Pretty much just about most girls I approached were either creeped out, bitchy or rude to me… Heck, I couldn’t figure it out, I thought it was my hair, my nose, I spent hours mulling over WHY!?!
Long story short, today I approach the same type of super hot women, and they react with a huge grin, absolutely delighted to be talking to me. What changed? I did. My approach changed.
See, I know you can use external parts of you like bodyshape, color, hair, or what not as “the reason” why people react badly to you, and its a convenient thing to do… But trust me, I’ve worked with hundreds of guys by now. Its always something about the way you come across. Its always about how you communicate and come across. I bet there’s a guy who looks just like you, who approaches the exact same asian women, and attract them… Heck, they wet their panties coz he’s talking to them.
How can you be that guy? Simple, start experimenting. Let me guess, you’ve been approaching all these women in the exact same way, and when it bombed you blamed it on them or something about you… Well… I’d suggest doing what I did, try every way of walking, talking, gesturing, smiling and see what makes the difference. You’ll be surprised how much you can shift how people respond to you.
But really dude there's no reason you should be confused about any of this. If you haven't taken the quiz to see how you stack up with women yet... Click here and see what your results are on the personal dating quiz.
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hehe u funny…how do u know that asian fear with black guy?btw am asian…black guy never smile and always put serious face like puff daddy…never see him smile and talk rude..maybe thats make us affraid..asian is very soft and sensitive…so figure it out.
Just be yourself and approach the ladies respectfully. Don’t come on too strong (I think this in general goes for ANY guy). If they turn away, then they are not the ones for you. Just keep on trying!
And btw, I’m Asian, and I like to go out for latin dancing. I’ve been asked to dance by black guys, and as long as they ask respectfully and they don’t crush my feet or twist my arm, I have a great time with them!
Hmmm …. when I was living in Japan a lot of japanese women were married the black men. Maybe you just need to keep trying. Oh and the babies they had were the cutest!
In texas they love them over here.
Maybe you should travel to Korea , Malaysia or Japan … if you’re in the USA try Texas
I am a black guy and I’ve lived in Japan working for a company. I am not attracted to Asian women at all. But since I lived there I dated girls there. In Japan the women think its cool to be with cool black guys, here in the US some Asian women are into nerdy type white dudes. They love to show their white boyfriends, I think its a cultural thing. They don’t understand the swagger of Latinos and black guys. In any case I think if you like them you should try.
I dated a Lao girl who was born in the US. She was really cool, she had a Vietnamese American boyfriend, she lived with him at the time she cheated on him with me. The poor guy wanted to marry her. Shishhh. One time we were kissing in the parking lot at work, he called and told her he sent her flowers for her birthday.