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Question: I am beginning to think that i am incapable of attracting women. I am a senior in college and have never even had my first kiss, all of my friends are in serious relationships and i feel like i am going to be left alone i have had people try and set me up with girls but they always seem weird ed out by me, i never know what to say because i for some reason can’t read body language. does anybody have any suggestions on what i should do. By the way at this point i am not looking to just get laid.
Answer: You’re being too hard on yourself dude. If you actually do the research you’ll find there’s a ton of virgins today. In fact, more and more colleges, have more and more students where no one is having sex. Fuck the media and their unrealistic images. The truth is, most of us are just confused on what to do with the opposite sex.
You’re going through a phase, and its ok, don’t beat yourself up, because that doesn’t work. What you need to do is accept it and go, ok, so I’m somewhat weird with girls, and maybe my social skills aren’t amazing, but that’s that, I can’t change it overnight, so I’ll accept that’s the way it is right now… BUT at the same time I’ll be working on making things better.
And then, you can do some of the things I suggest. Go join as many social activites as you can (especially if they involve a lot of women), get some hobbies, join different groups and organizations. Over time you’ll find that you become more and more confident and relaxed around women. If you’re weirding women out, the only reason is that you’re too anxious around them and not relaxed. So relax, there is no hurry. You’re a guy. We can be 40 and still bang 20-year old if we make it in life. So decided to make this your most social year ever. Just take some time, read some books on being social and charming, and within a year, you’ll be looking back on this year with pride!
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here is the general rule for guys, if you haven’t been laid by the end of college then your a virgin-for-life, unless of course you believe in waiting until marriage (hahahahahahaha)
my advice to you is to stop looking for a serious relationship, go to a party, get drunk, find a girl as drunk as you, take her to your room, and make love to her. nuff said
The problem is that you lack confidence. You can attract a woman you are just going to have to work harder at it. Instead of focusing on finding a girlfriend, start practicing social skills and get to know more women as friends. When you feel more comfortable and can be yourself women will respond to you in a more positive way.
Also think about how you can improve your outer appearance. How you look makes your first impression on people. It is important to present yourself in a way that makes you seem approachable.
You’re still very young, son, and have plenty of time to meet the right girl. Some people just take longer to get started. I’m sure you’ll meet someone.
Don’t feel so bad. I’m almost 59 and haven’t had my first kiss yet or even been on a date. I’m still waiting to meet the right lady too.
You need to get some dating advice. I did this when I was in high school, but hey, it’s never too late for that. If all of the women you have been dating didn’t really like you, you must have been doing something wrong. There is some great advice out there from experts who really know how to attract a woman, as lame as this may sound, their advice helped me a lot. Seriously, if you want to get this problem handled, check my resource.