Some dude from yahoo answers had a cool question. Now, its obvious he hasnt taken my secret quiz, but ignore that, and focus on his question, and how I answer it.
Question: I am not used to chatting with women online and would like some tips. How should I come across when chatting, if interested how do I come on to a female without pushing too hard?
Answer:
Well, dude, you pretty much answered your own question. How do you chat with a female without pushing too hard… DON’T push too hard. Its just that simple. Have in mind that one of the best advantages of online chat is that women are a LOT MORE courageous and open to escalating and moving things along than in real life. In real life they wait for you to do most of the moving things along… But online, they’re alot more open about doing the work (asking you out, etc…).
So here’s what you do online. Only focus on getting to know her. Focus on BEFRIENDING her. I know its kind of hard to even think about limiting yourself to just this, as you want to meet a girl… But trust me, this INCREASES your chances of meeting a girl. I could give you like 34830 techniques to pursue women, while looking non-desperate and seeming like you’re not pushing too hard… But they don’t work nearly as well as GENUINELLY not pushing hard.
Ever made friends in your life? Do you hang out with them? Of course. Well, apply the same strategy to a girl online. Just befriend her, focus on finding cool girls that you wanna befriend, and things will move along on their own. If you have a common interest, you’ll just end up either her inviting you out, or you inviting her out on something. But try to focus on treating her the same way you would a guy. When you’re talking to a new guy do you desperately focus on how to get him to go out with you? Lol no… But… you just chat with him, and if some topic comes along and you find mutual interest (like you both play snooker), you ask him to come play snooker with you next week.
Leave the flirting for in real life. Trust me, you’re just shooting yourself in the foot if you focus on “getting women” online… Even if you learn all these tricks about making her come see you in real life… If she happens to not be compatible to you, it’ll just bomb catastrophically.
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You are such of a loser! Go break up with ur girlfriend then start chatting online, my goodness!! Now i understand why she got the toy.
women like men who talk to them about fabulous clothes. make sure you tell them you are interested in perfume that smells like flowers, pink, and summer. tell them youd like to go shopping with them and get makeovers together. also, tell them you have a slight lisp and are really well built. they are attracted to both.
Be confident, be yourself, and preferably not a pervert, oh yeah and be honest.
how to atract women during chat dating?
As “Saku” said. But there are different approaches that work on different women.
I do however agree with the part about befriending her – just in another way.
The game: I like you, I tease you, I befriend you, and I stay laid back. Works alot, because you get the woman intrigued and interested – just dont be TOO casual. Once you got her, keep her there. Don’t just let her do all the talking, or she will leave.